kathy and chris publish joint statement

Locke deleted his site in rejection of the conduct taking place there *before* Sierra posted. That should be enough. Kee-rist the outrage brigade is working overtime on this one.
Hugh: I know you were probably angry at the time, but calling Locke and the other three a “posse of middle aged, self-loathing underachievers” and comparing them to rape enablers was more shitty conduct than most of the posts on MeanKids.Org. Do you still stand behind those comments?

Hey Rogers,
Of course I stand behind my comments. Because I never once said my comments were directed at the three you mentioned.
Read my post again, one more time. Thanks.

Your post: “Apparently these MeanKids folk were taking the occasional pop at me as well. Mommy! Mommy! Come quick! A posse of middle aged, self-loathing underachievers is being mean to me Boo hoo hoo hoo…
“[Afterthought:] Highschool Metaphor: ‘OK, so you weren’t the actual jock who raped the cheerleader. But it seems you were in the posse circling them, chanting ‘Go go go go go go go…””
Your refusal to acknowledge that these insults were aimed at the MeanKids publishers is strange. But I guess that’s one way to avoid an apology.

Thanks, but I’m probably not coming back. I think we all know that nothing has changed, and the same thing would just happen again. We’re not talking about just one person, and we’re not talking just about the random trolls we ALL get. I do not have the stomach for it any longer.
Ignoring is not always a solution — I tried that, and it only became *worse* (if someone is determined to get a reaction from *you*, ignoring them just means they have to keep taking it up a notch until you do). Talking to people involved is not always a solution — I tried that, but MORE posts went up *after* I wrote to some of the people involved to tell them how freaked out I was.
No, I think there’s a visibility tipping point, and when you cross it — some people will hate you no matter what you write about. Visibility alone seems to be a big enough reason for people to want to inflict pain. And unfortunately, if you’re a female they are more likely to add in *sexual* threats and fantasies as well.
It was my daughter who found the suffocation/smothering photo. We all have our limits. Whoever created that post found mine.
[Rogers, you do not have the story quite correct. If you want to exchange private email, I can fill in more details.]

You can dress it up any way you like, but calling them “middle aged, self-loathing underachievers” was crappy.
The post about Maryam Scoble was inexcusable and prompted Paynter’s deletion of the site. To say that those three were responsible for it, when they didn’t make that post, is like saying that you’re responsible for my belief that you’re a mean kid.