August 22, 2011

Blogging Disciples vs Blogging Peers: Some random thoughts on “Guru-nomics”.

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It’s not  a bag gig, I suppose…

You have a suc­cess­ful blog, read by lots of peo­ple, where you dole out lots of advice on how to create a suc­cess­ful blog, read by lots of peo­ple. And you rake in the cash doing so.

i.e. You’re a “Guru”.

I’ve been there myself. I’ve sha­red TONS of my tricks of the trade over the years, which has indi­rectly hel­ped my bot­tom line no end… And I have to say, it’s a good fee­ling to think you’re actually hel­ping peo­ple in real and mea­ning­ful ways.

Sure, com­pa­red to how most peo­ple have to pay their bills, being a “guru” is not a bad gig, not a bad gig at all. And there’s some good ones out there, doing a splen­did job hel­ping peo­ple move their lives for­ward. No won­der why so many other peo­ple are also cha­sing after the very same gig, themselves.

But guru-dom has never sat well with me, somehow, no mat­ter how good it was for busi­ness. And for the lon­gest time I couldn’t quite put my fin­ger on it why that was.

Then recently I got tal­king to an old friend, some­body who spent a lot of time prac­ti­cing as an Eas­tern mys­tic, who stu­died under REAL gurus and knew all about guru­dom. The clo­set thing to a real Holy man that I ever had the pri­vi­lege of calling a friend.

Then one day he just gave it up com­ple­tely. Just totally stop­ped. As he explai­ned in his email:

I found enligh­ten­ment to be ove­rra­ted.  It turns out that when this comes about, all of the Karma in your life comes due at once… both good and bad. I’ve had to pay the sufi mas­ter three times to get out of town and leave me alone.

Many groups, end up in a sycophan­tic embrace and I found that to be dis­tas­te­ful, be care­ful. Since we live so many lives, There is plenty of time for this state to take effect. I’d advise anyone to take it slow. Howe­ver, there are a few good ones out there, who really aren’t into all these she­na­ni­gans.  At least that’s my experience.

Really believe that kno­wing the future crea­tes a boring life, no sur­pri­ses any more.  Remote vie­wing opens one up to things that one would rather not know. Powers of hea­ling, brings all kinds of sick peo­ple around from all over the place and you end up trip­ping on them.  Deci­ples, needy and clin­ging. More and more I think that it is all about gai­ning the abi­lity to hang in there and keep it together in the face of life’s shit-storms. I espe­cially like the abi­lity to make peo­ple laugh at the absur­dit­yof it all. You already have that power.

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There is a big dif­fe­rence bet­ween being an influen­cer with a blog and being a guru. But the same kind of thing applies. I never tried it because I never really had anything mea­ning­ful to say. If I said it, then there always see­med to be a cer­tain “fals­ness” to it. The influen­cers have a can­no­ni­cal form, that requi­res tal­king more than lis­te­ning, and feig­ning lis­te­ning, which is taken as agree­ment, when maybe it’s not. Which is disho­nest. Cha­risma is a way of crap­ping on half the peo­ple you meet in such a subtle way, then they thank you for it.

Yep. That sums up a lot of my fee­lings. Something about the job-tile, “Guru” just kinda makes me queasy. I just don’t think I like the bag­gage, the “karma” that comes with it; I just don’t think I like the guru-nomics of it all.

I don’t want to write for DISCIPLES, I want to write for MY PEERS. There’s a dif­fe­rence, a BIG one.

i.e.  I don’t want to write about how I can help ran­dom peo­ple do great work, I want to TRY to do great work myself, and CELEBRATE other peo­ple who are ALREADY doing it.

You don’t get suc­cess­ful because some enligh­te­ned being told you how. You get suc­cess­ful because somehow cir­cums­tan­ces for­ced you to ACTUALLY put your balls on the line. And this has always been the case.

But maybe I’m weird for thin­king that…

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10 Responses to “Blogging Disciples vs Blogging Peers: Some random thoughts on “Guru-nomics”.”

  1. John Seiffer says:

    » I don’t want to write about how I can help ran­dom peo­ple do great work, I want to TRY to do great work myself, and CELEBRATE other peo­ple who are ALREADY doing it.«

    Great to hear. Some­ti­mes it seems that the mar­ket for great self-help is infi­nite. But the cus­to­mers are just loo­king for someone to follow. For­get about leading/following and just do your own work.

    I guess it’s a big temp­ta­tion for peo­ple who are good a deve­lo­ping a tribe. I’ve seen some peo­ple with really good insight stop being insight­ful and start tal­king about how ever­yone can be insight­ful in their own way. Yeah. Maybe. Who cares.

  2. Hello Hugh,

    I just made a major tran­si­tion in my life by lea­ving IT and ente­ring Fine Art. I find I am very pro­duc­tive, but it isn’t the rela­xing jour­ney I expec­ted. It is dam­ned hard work. I am exhaus­ted at the end of the day and I do not feel any clo­ser to “the ans­wer” than I have at any other time.

    The author of Jonathan Livings­ton Sea­gull wrote a book about Guru­dom after the suc­cess of his Sea­gull book. How the Guru in the midst of a large assembly of his dis­ci­ples just deci­ded to disap­pear and lay low. He had had enough.

    One of the draw­backs of wri­ting for your peers is often you give peo­ple too much cre­dit. They don’t live up to your expec­ta­tions. They act like dumbasses.

    An exam­ple I can think of is the first social net­work called Elec­tric Minds, an expe­ri­ment by Howard Rhein­gold. He thought every­body would be level hea­ded and democ­ra­tic in his forums. They tur­ned out to be a herd of pigs. As a con­se­quence Howard fil­te­red through all the par­ti­ci­pants and crea­ted a gated com­mu­nity, Brains­torms, where inte­res­ting minds could meet. Even­tually the inte­res­ting minds all left due to an abun­dance of navel gazers.

    So if you have peers, shepherds, ins­tead of dis­ci­ples, dumb sheep, you can expect to have your work cut out for you. But you will make some genuine friends.

    Grant.

  3. Hugh, your friend desc­ri­bes the gut fee­ling I’ve always had when I come into con­tact with “cha­ris­ma­tic” peo­ple. They’re char­ming, friendly, warm, help­ful, inte­res­ted and interesting…but in the back of my mind, I always have this nig­gling sus­pi­cion that they’re laughing deri­sion at ever­yone around them.

    Which, of course, leads me to get as far away from them as I pos­sibly can.

    So, there’s my main rea­son for never wan­ting to become a “guru”! But I’m with you, I also don’t want a follo­wing of peeps who expect me to solve their pro­blems. I’d much rather advo­cate us all lear­ning and gro­wing *together* and sta­ying con­nec­ted simply by being messy humans doing messy human things.

    Sit­ting on top of a pedes­tal is a lonely, iso­la­ted pro­po­si­tion. Let’s all screw up together and fall flat our our faces together and help each other up.

  4. Sheila Foley says:

    I read a few blogs (temp­ted as I am to say reli­giously, I won’t). I do not, howe­ver, become an offi­cial “follo­wer” of any of them — inc­lu­ding my sister’s blog. She was anno­yed about this. She thought she knew why. “You don’t see your­self as a follo­wer,” she told me. “You always want to be the lea­der.” As true as this may be, that’s not the rea­son. I just don’t think any blog­ger, anywhere, deser­ves “follo­wers”. I read Hugh’s blog every day– but I won’t “follow” it.

  5. Isy Aweigh says:

    I trans­late the word “follo­wer” to something I don’t have a sin­gle word for, but means “someone who likes this enough to put their name on the line for my being worth rea­ding.” Which puts the focus off of my sta­tus and back onto the inhe­rent value of my out­put. It’s fla­wed, but it makes it bearable.

    This reflects my own approach to others’ wri­ting, which has never been worship­ful, but can still make me think and help me grow. I’ve never been much of a guru because I have it too firmly in my head that ever­yone should do their own thin­king. But I’m just star­ting to deve­lop a, ahem, follo­wing /flinch/ so my views could well change.

  6. Graeme Smith says:

    Hugh… I aspire to doing great things and great work… Achie­ving a level where we con­si­de­red each other peers would be awe­so­me­ness defi­ned… Howe­ver… I ain’t there yet… It’s a strug­gle… I hear you though… But until that cele­bra­tion: I’m sure wha­te­ver you write will pro­bably con­ti­nue to help me and others. You see, we’re not ran­dom peo­ple from our own pers­pec­ti­ves. Thanks for your work. G

  7. cinderkeys says:

    There may be another rea­son you avoid guru sta­tus, Hugh. Gurus dis­pense wise sta­te­ments. Crea­tive types create things whose very exis­tence is enligh­te­ning. This is what I hope my songs do, at their best.

    To put it a little less pre­ten­tiously: We like to create things that make peo­ple go “Yeah.”

    One of my current favo­rite exam­ples is a car­toon of yours: “‘I can’t take this shit any­more,’” he said, mis­ta­kenly.” I got a good laugh out of it. A moment later, I also rea­li­zed that neces­sary chan­ges were not going to hap­pen in my life if I sat around wai­ting to hit bottom.

    If you’d writ­ten an entire book on the sub­ject, it wouldn’t have had the impact of that one cartoon.

  8. DishItOut says:

    Hugh,

    Looks you have a bunch of aspi­ring sycophants follo­wing you. If I were you I would run.. now, before you start to believe their bullshit. Even if you don’t send them away, they might believe that you are buying their bullshit.

    With follo­wers like these, you can’t avoid them put­ting you up on a pedes­tal. I’m sorry to inform you that you’re stuck as a Guru, buddy. You don’t call it, they put you there. You can’t shake them. That’s it, you’re fuuuuuu…ed.

    You’ve told them that you don’t want no stin­king dis­ci­ples and all of these hypoc­ra­tes start suc­king up to you saying that they are not really follo­wing you when they really are.
    What I can’t unders­tand is why they want your appro­val when I know that you really couldn’t give a shit?

    I won­der how many of em are Catholic.

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