April 5, 2010

are you a “waker”?

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Are you a “Waker”?

If the ans­wer is no, I’m sorry to hear that. Wakers are my favo­rite people.

A waker is someone who is very good at waking other peo­ple up from their metapho­ri­cal slumber.

Some peo­ple just have the gift. Being around them or their work just makes you feel more alive, more ins­pi­red, more moti­va­ted, more awake. The best wakers will make you do crazy-ass things, like quit your boring job and start your own busi­ness, write that song, move to Thai­land, for­give that someone who once hurt you, or finally tell that girl that you love her.

A waker reminds you on a cons­tant basis,  just how alive you really are. Just how much human poten­tial you really have inside of you. And there’s something about their influence that makes you utterly una­ble to go back to “sleep” ever again, in spite of your best efforts.

Wakers can be great artists– Jeff Buc­kely, Picasso, Har­per Lee, Beetho­ven, Char­lie Par­ker, Leo Tols­toy, Tilda Swin­ton, Louis Arms­trong, Ralph Stead­man, Saul Stein­berg etc– but they don’t have to be.

Wakers can be great spi­ri­tual lea­ders– Jesus, Gandhi, Moham­med, Buddha, The Dalai Lama, Mar­tin Luther King, Joseph Camp­bell etc– but they don’t have to be.

Wakers can be great public figu­res– Steve Jobs, Wins­ton Churchill, Simone de Beau­voir, Diana Vree­land, Carl Sagan, John Peel, Susan Son­tag, Alis­tair Cooke, Mar­ga­ret Thatcher,  etc– but they don’t have to be.

I know great wakers who are bar­ten­ders, bus dri­vers, teachers, recep­tio­nists, plum­bers. Theirs is a gift, not a job title.

If you are a waker, I’m happy for you. There is no bet­ter way to spend one’s life than being a waker, I truly believe that.

The human race needs you, like flo­wers need sunshine. The human race would die out within three gene­ra­tions without you. Thanks for being here. Seriously.

If you’re not a waker, don’t you think you should be? Serious question.

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38 Responses to “are you a “waker”?”

  1. You ask a ques­tion that I can not ans­wer, only others who know me or my work can accu­ra­tely ans­wer whether I am a waker for them.

    Howe­ver, let me con­tri­bute to indi­vi­duals to the Waker class

    Stowe Boyd and Liz Strauss

    and yes, you are a Waker.

  2. Totally agree with you re this:
    “There is no bet­ter way to spend one’s life than being a waker. I truly believe that.”

    Ques­tion — Do you think it is pos­si­ble to become or turn into a waker? Sounds like you do. I’m trying to decide if I have enough faith in peo­ple to believe that that is pos­si­ble for anyone. Maybe part of being a Waker is actually having that faith.

    Thanks for the wis­dom. Pre­cious little of that around too!

    Alli­son

  3. Doubleclick says:

    There is no doubt in my mind that you are a MASSIVE waker. Namechec­king Steve Jobs, John Peel AND Mar­ga­ret Thatcher in the same sen­tence con­firms this for me.

  4. Michael says:

    Hey Hugh — good post though a bit on the new-agey side com­pa­red to most of your stuff. Hope you are not losing your edge!

    Just kid­ding you a little.…. I do like this one a lot and think it is a good mes­sage for peo­ple to consider.

  5. Tyler Hurst says:

    MAN most of the com­ments are full of praise. Does that moti­vate you?

    The best wakers don’t coddle peo­ple, though. They piss them off and are pro­bably hated for it.

    Like too many great artists, I bet most wakers are never unders­tood until they’re gone.

  6. Tiara Shafiq says:

    I think I’m more of a jol­ter — I have been desc­ri­bed as a catalyst a few times. A cou­ple of years ago someone desc­ri­bed me as someone who would bring great bene­fits to a group by cha­llen­ging their pre­con­cep­tions and sha­king things up, but at the cost of per­so­nal rela­tionships — they’d resent me for wan­ting to change things before appre­cia­ting what I had to say. I’ve cer­tainly seen this in school; peo­ple couldn’t believe that I would willingly go for the Huma­ni­ties (seen as “for idiot losers”) ins­tead of Science, but it wasn’t until I left school that the teachers were falling over them­sel­ves about calling me a trendsetter.

    Being a waker may be a greatly impor­tant job, but it can also be really lonely if those around you would rather be sleeping.

  7. Rajat says:

    About 3 years ago, I had a good, sta­ble job. One mor­ning, while going to work, I thought…Is this how I am sup­po­sed to spend my life? Going to work every mor­ning, punching but­tons on a key­board, sta­ring at a screen all day, come back home, eat din­ner, go to sleep…???

    Maybe I awoke at that point.

    I do not have a pro­per job today. Marriage seems very, very hard. Yet there is a sense of immense satis­fac­tion. How? Because I have many more ans­wers than I had when I had a ‘sta­ble’ job.

    Waking up is extre­mely hard. Perhaps it pays off in the long run…I don’t know.

    Waking up others is har­der. It takes a ste­llar DNA to do that.

    Amen.

  8. cinderkeys says:

    I don’t think I’m a waker. Most peo­ple aren’t. That’s OK, though. If ever­yone were a waker we wouldn’t need wakers! Besi­des, other jobs are also important.

    Off the top of my head …

    Lis­te­ner. If you do it right, you’ll give peo­ple the space they need to be their own wakers.

    Hel­per. Not to be con­fu­sed with the code­pen­dent sort of enabling.

    Illu­mi­na­tor. The per­son who explains the things you likely already knew on some level, but never thought about. The best wri­ters, songw­ri­ters, and espe­cially stand-up comics excel at this, but your best friend is pro­bably pretty good at it too.

    That’s just off the top of my head. There are all kinds of gifts, and all kinds of ways to use them. :)

  9. mcr says:

    First, I don’t buy your pre­mise that peo­ple are asleep, metapho­ri­cally or other­wise. Isn’t this just saying if you don’t see life as I do, then you’re beneath me? Given the six billion plus peo­ple on the pla­net, I am fairly sure that there could be just as many views on how to live one’s life. I live my life the way I have come to deter­mine is best for me. I ima­gine a lot of peo­ple would disa­gree with that, but really, I am not con­cer­ned about others views of my lifestyle. If I were to say that ever­yone who lived dif­fe­rently than I do is asleep, what would that mean?

    • Hugh MacLeod says:

      mcr,

      Your argu­ment fails to explain thou­sands of years of art and religion…

      Then of course, there are the “Sleepers”.

      Folk who have a talent for suc­king the life out of everything they touch.

      Don’t be one of them! ;-)

      • mcr says:

        I am not really trying to explain thou­sands of years of art.
        Just because I think, per­so­nally, that Art is the sin­gle grea­test endea­vor of man­kind, doesn’t mean that ever­yone else should. I am sure that doc­tors who work for Mede­cin sans Fron­tie­res pro­bably think dif­fe­rently.
        Simi­larly, do you think a man who goes every day to his job at an accoun­ting firm, adds up beans all day long, watches popu­lar movies when they come out, goes to his chil­drens’ games on the wee­kend and has the occa­sio­nal beer while coo­king bur­gers on the grill in the back­yard while not con­tem­pla­ting the mys­te­ries of the uni­verse or the neces­sa­rily self-referencing tau­to­lo­gies used to explain the exis­tence of cons­cious­ness is enjo­ying life any less than you? Would not one of the highest goals of life to be merely con­tent with life?

        There are some peo­ple who have attai­ned many dif­fe­rent levels of disap­point­ment with their lives. They have only them­sel­ves to blame. Others live as they see fit and are con­tent with their lot.

        If ever­yone was a phi­lo­sopher or artist, then the human race would have died off long ago. Perhaps you should expand your own hori­zons, your boun­dary set as it were, to inc­lude other lifesty­les than your own.

        • Maria Choban says:

          Actually, I don’t think the 2 are mutually exc­lu­sive. I can imme­dia­tely think of a “waker” subur­ban mom with whom I just emai­led this mor­ning. She is cons­tantly and curiously expan­ding her own hori­zons and balan­cing this with caring and having fun with her family. She wakes her family as much as her­self and those of us around her. She attends her daughter’s lac­rosse matches, goes hiking with friends, has back-yard bbq’s.…… I can also bring to mind another mom who is not, with whom I sat across the Eas­ter table and even at that dis­tance she suc­ked the life out of me. We exchan­ged maybe 3 words (okay, she exchan­ged about 2 kaz­zi­llion). I think it comes down to how you or I feel in the pre­sence of others. If they charge us, they’re pro­bably wakers. If they deplete us, they pro­bably aren’t (at least for us uniquely).

        • Hugh MacLeod says:

          “I am not really trying to explain thou­sands of years of art.”

          Yes, which explains why your argu­ment fails on so many levels. Good luck to you…

          • mcr says:

            If you would like to start a con­ver­sa­tion about the exis­tence, “uses” and evo­lu­tion of art, I would cer­tainly be happy to oblige you.

            The mys­tic can reach the sublime no mat­ter what his daily rou­tine is. Perhaps we need a cla­ri­fi­ca­tion of what slee­pers are. Could you expand your the­sis? As Maria sta­ted about he slee­per expe­rience at the kitchen table. Is this totally sub­jec­tive on the fra­me­work of the vie­wer? Perhaps there are other acquain­tan­ces who believe that the woman Maria clas­si­fied as a sleep as someone who does for them what her back­pac­king friend does for Maria.

          • Hugh MacLeod says:

            I do agree with you, that peo­ple don’t spend 24/7/365 “Asleep”…

            There are all kinds of slee­pers, of course. From the kind that are utterly zom­bie­fied by the mun­da­nity of life, to just ordi­nary peo­ple having a ho-hum day, and could use a small dose of “ZIIIING” to perk them up.

            But I cross paths with “Wakers” pretty much every day. I couldn’t live without them…

  10. mTp says:

    This post remin­ded me of some Jello Bia­fra lyrics from the song The Power of Lard: “When peo­ple are asleep, we must all become alarm clocks.”

    It is strange how that pop­ped in my brain from 20 years ago.

    I like the idea of wakers. I avoid the “slee­pers” and “energy suc­kers” they moti­vate little in anyone.

    Thanks Hugh,
    mTp

  11. erik says:

    I adore your stuff Hugh

    Being a waker is Loving people

    Encou­ra­ge­ment is part of Love

    Let’s all dis­co­ver LOVE

  12. simon says:

    thanks but I like slee­ping! ZZZZzzzzzz!!!

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  15. Stephanie says:

    Great list of Wakers! I’d love to see some more WOMEN Wakers on your lists (M. Thatcher is the only one). Marianne William­son, Glo­ria Stei­nem, Louise Hay, Frida Kahlo, the woman who sold her stuff and went to live with rape vic­tims in the Congo, Sappho, Anais Nin, Mother Teresa, Susan B. Anthony, Oprah, Sojour­ner Truth…

    Keep up the good work.

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  17. The fee­ling I get when I come across these types, is that my way of thin­king has been chan­ged, and I place you among them. Thanks again for being awesome.

  18. I’d like to think I am a waker …

    A cou­ple of exam­ples … I con­vin­ced to per­fect stran­gers to join the army with me (for an edu­ca­tion, college savings, and world tra­vel) and I once taught someone how to jug­gle even though I could never do it myself. I just tal­ked him through it until he belie­ved it was possible.

    Some of the best ones though are the peo­ple who said they never read books for plea­sure only con­tent before mee­ting me. That one still makes me smile.

  19. Priaa says:

    hey hugh– really like the stuff you write and the points that you dig out and (not so dead, hopefully)horses that u flog! :) thank you — ever so much for the shake-up!

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  21. read this a while ago. stays with me. every day. one of those things i knew but didn’t have a word for. thank you for naming it and vali­da­ting it. thank you for remin­ding me of the impor­tance of living it.

  22. thanks for being one of the peo­ple who awa­kens me!!

  23. simply scott says:

    Indeed I am. I enjoy get­ting peo­ple invol­ved in all the fun things there are to do, see and experience.

  24. Andria says:

    Who wants to be my “waker”?!

  25. Shakes says:

    I tal­ked two youn­ger, mise­ra­ble friends into drop­ping out of college so they could live their own lives ins­tead of making their parents happy. I couldn’t stand to see them so depres­sed living out dreams that they didn’t want.

    Ten and ele­ven years later they are both happy with their own lives. Does that count?

  26. This was an ins­pi­ra­tio­nal, thought pro­vo­king blog post. It puzz­les me that so many would choose to argue and doubt ins­tead of embrace and con­si­der. Skep­ti­cism, doubt, fear are not the stuff of truth and growth. Remem­ber who you are ~ who you were meant to be.

  27. Ginette King says:

    I’m abso­lu­tely a waker. 100%.

    The beau­ti­ful thing is, that only those who are ready and willing to hear res­pond to the mes­sage. I don’t think peo­ple feel the jolt if they’re not ready for it.

    I don’t push it on folks, but when they’re open to lis­te­ning to the whis­pers (or screams) of their unhap­pi­ness or year­nings, I give them the nudge that reminds them they can do it.

    Gra­te­ful for “wakers” who’ve encou­ra­ged me in my life.

  28. I adore being a Waker.

    My sis­ter com­plai­ned she doesn’t turn to me because she felt I wasn’t a safe place for her to fall. My reply: Of course not! I’m the hard slap of rea­lity, cha­sed with a warm hug.

    I change ever­yone I meet. And I meet ever­yone I can, because I never now who FATE wants me to influence next. The best Waker’s spread their insight with humor. I’ve pushed friends at the gym into “living” more of their lives & strive har­der at their wor­kouts. I’ve pushed hesi­tant peo­ple into making the daring choi­ces by set­ting an exam­ple and doing them. I once had a phi­lo­sophi­cal dis­cus­sion with a man on a plane about being mono­go­mous vs. being pol­ya­mo­rous. He lan­ded much more thought­ful about the concepts.

    The best Waker’s shine the light of insight into another’s soul and let that per­son dis­co­ver that NEW part of them­sel­ves they never rea­li­zed was there. Then you get to smile and enjoy their own self-discovery as it fills them with wonder.

    Waker’s ROCK!

  29. Damn proud to say that I am, and have been since childhood.

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