September 16, 2009

what’s your coping mechanism?

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lums0909Lum’s Bar­be­cue, Junc­tion, Texas. This is where I nor­mally stop for lunch when I drive bet­ween Alpine and Aus­tin. Just over halfway.

That smoker’s been there over 3o years, they tell me. And the guy who smo­kes the meat has been there even longer.

One more rea­son to love living out here.

Peo­ple were quite sur­pri­sed when I moved out to Alpine, nearly two years ago. They had got­ten used to me being from New York or London.

But I had always ima­gi­ned ending up somewhere like here even­tually. It was just a case of wai­ting for both the Inter­net and the ol’ art career to reach a cer­tain cri­ti­cal mass. When that day finally arri­ved, the move hap­pe­ned rather quickly.

And it could not have hap­pe­ned at a bet­ter time. In the last few months busi­ness has got­ten a lot more hec­tic. For rea­sons still unc­lear to me, the pri­vate com­mis­sions just star­ted coming in fas­ter and fas­ter. Why now, I won­der? I don’t think I cold have coped with it nearly as well, living in a big city.

As I’m fond of saying, Suc­cess is more com­plex than Fai­lure. This quiet, pared-down, ungla­mo­rous, low-maintenance West Texas life in the high desert seems to be my way of dea­ling with it.

What’s your coping mechanism?

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25 Responses to “what’s your coping mechanism?”

  1. Daniel Edlen says:

    Coping with… suc­cess? Giggling.

    Don’t laugh. Um, or do. It works.

    Peace,
    @vinylart

  2. Jen Mathis says:

    Coping Mecha­nism: Eating.

    Always eating. :P

  3. I won­der if it is a Texas thing…er…thang?

    Some­ti­mes I swear the air just smells bet­ter here than anywhere else.

    I live west of Aus­tin and there is a local Mexi­can res­tau­rant that I hit way too frequently.

    One Satur­day after errands, in the twi­light bet­ween lunch and din­ner, I stop­ped in and had the place to myself. The staff came and sat down with me and we ended up watching, of all things, stunt bow­ling on ESPN.

    In the last 12 years Aus­tin has deve­lo­ped much and I’m not really in the boon­docks any more and I find myself pon­de­ring whether a place even further west would be good for the soul.

  4. Ian Aspin says:

    Hello Hugh.

    Ahhh sim­pli­city: “pared-down, ungla­mo­rous, low-maintenance”.

    I rec­kon these are keys to help us focus more clearly on stuff that matters.

    I love these qua­li­ties too, and find hap­pi­ness in dis­co­ve­ring authen­ti­city and con­nec­ted­ness with down-to-earth peo­ple and places.

    Con­grats on your suc­ces­ses and thanks for wri­ting this post.

    Much love,

    Ian.

  5. Shane Gibson says:

    My coping mecha­nism is a little dif­fe­rent. Left alone in too much soli­tude I find my energy drops. If I head to one of my favo­rite cafes and write I seem to feed off the energy of buz­zing by.

  6. The best coping mecha­nism is to be an extraor­di­nary per­son and always try to think outside the box.

    When the going get tough be tougher and raise your head up never allow to sink just remain afloat

  7. John Rutter says:

    Coping with stress of success?

    Usually just keep on at it, but for rela­xa­tion to coun­ter stress I like eating out, drin­king and rea­ding paperbacks.

    Then occa­sio­nally (i.e. not often enough) get­ting a serious adre­na­line rush from thrashing my sports car around a race track.

  8. 12 steps, hel­ping others, making time to do nothing (or trying to do nothing — it’s a dif­fi­cult art). Living part-time in Sili­con Valley and part-time in NYC, so I can have the hec­tic city life (which feeds me crea­ti­vely) or the mild, more outdoors-y Cali­for­nia life depen­ding on my needs. Truly ama­zing friends. Exce­llent the­rapy. Revie­wing my per­so­nal and pro­fes­sio­nal pro­gress on a regu­lar basis (it’s easy to lose sight of accom­plish­ments when you don’t take time to cele­brate or notice them). Laughing a LOT.

  9. Reanne says:

    Drin­king, smo­king, and run­ning at least 5 miles a day.

  10. Jo-Ann says:

    a glass of wine and a sunset…

  11. Phil Lynch says:

    Hugh

    Junc­tion, Texas? Get your­self a copy of Jim Dent’s ‘The Junc­tion Boys’ to get clued up on the town’s place in college foot­ball history.

  12. Kait says:

    My coping mecha­nism is simply to create more. It puts me in a medi­ta­tive state of mind.

  13. @PDXsays says:

    Oh… so you come from the city, and don’t know the horrors of being from a one-horse town… of being labe­led by the illi­te­rati, the pres­su­res of trying to fit in in amongst the Joe’s BBQ’s folks that deride and berate you for kno­wing words of more that two sylla­bles. And *READING* all those books. trying to get to the lar­ger town where you can check out the ones that the minis­ter will slyly insert into his ser­mon next Sun­day. He sits on the library board, so there’s no hiding it.

    You and John Mellon­camp are wel­come to it. Stephen King knows something of the truth about corn fields and trai­ler parks and rural poverty.

    Nice attempt at gla­mo­ri­zing, though.

    • Hugh MacLeod says:

      I grew up in the big city? Wow. You know nothing about me.

      Sounds like some­body is still haun­ted by their High School days ;-)

      But that’s not the Good Folk of Junc­tion, Texas’ problem.

  14. Moti­va­ting other writers.

    When I feel down-and-out and start to doubt myself I put my moti­va­tio­nal abi­li­ties to the test.

    If I can sway one wri­ter with my words, and give them a gui­ding hand back to the path of crea­ti­vity, then that’s it, I know can do the same for myself.

    It’s a mat­ter of pers­pec­tive and per­se­ve­rance, like most things in life.

    • Ryan, I feel the same way. When I write something that helps another wri­ter find their path it gives me the energy to get back on my own direct path.

      And I think that we rede­fine fai­lure and suc­cess throughout our careers.

  15. Hiking, Nia, yoga, friends. Tal­king it all out keeps me from taking ANY of it (suc­cess or fai­lure) too seriously.

  16. Talmadge says:

    Lone Star

    • Momo says:

      Lones­tar?? No! Bud Lite!

      And some of the others men­tio­ned like good Tex-Mex & smoking.

      A good Aggie game is a nice diver­sion from time to time… when the broad­cast them… when they have one!

      But the best one right now is great music & great beer at Zapato’s Can­tina on Northgate.

  17. Susan Cross says:

    Suc­cess more com­plex than fai­lure? I would like to find out about those com­ple­xi­ties. I have a num­ber of pos­si­ble coping mecha­nisms in mind if I only had the suc­cess to use them. Right now, I’m trea­ding water. Coping mecha­nism? Rea­ding great books. Esca­ping into them. Dis­con­nec­ting from everything else through the words of other writers.

  18. Kelli says:

    Great post.

    For me–

    1) living in a small town
    2) living simply
    3) books and art
    4) poetry
    5) good wine, good cheese
    6) yoga
    7) good friends
    8) writing

    I didn’t mean for good wine and good cheese to come before good friends. I actually like to have all three together.

  19. mark says:

    Try Cooper’s. The BBQ is bet­ter and it is clo­ser to the high­way and more gas sta­tions. BTW, next time you are in Aus­tin we will hook you up with some beef ribs at Iron Works down­town. Best beef ribs in Texas.

  20. Nick says:

    LOL!! Coping with suc­cess? I’ll have to file that in my “cross that bridge when I get there” category!

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