Comments on: the overachieving women manifesto

By: J.Kaambo

J.Kaambo — Wed, 21 Feb 2007 19:18:41 +0000

It was a good novel I would like to hear from cause i some Idea of making money

By: Criss

Criss — Sun, 07 Jan 2007 15:33:44 +0000

I think number four is meant as a joke, folks.

By: Aya

Aya — Sun, 07 Jan 2007 13:33:19 +0000

Number four is shit. Why the hell should I hide my earnings just because Poor Baby (whomever s/he happens to be) feels bad? To Poor Baby, I say: Work harder, asshole.

By: Chris

Chris — Sun, 07 Jan 2007 06:49:42 +0000

As for number 4, I KNOW it’s bollocks. The fact that my wife earns 50% more than I do is not a problem. This sort of generalization is exactly the sort of thing that feminists have been fighting for years, and Nia shouldn’t allow herself to be prey to it.

By: Geoff

Geoff — Sun, 07 Jan 2007 06:42:49 +0000

Speaking from personal experience. Once the woman earns significantly more than you she disappears leaving a vapour trail behind.…..

By: Chris Lehmann

Chris Lehmann — Sun, 07 Jan 2007 01:54:34 +0000

Not all men mind their partner / wife making more than them. In fact, for those of us in public education, it can be a total blessing.

By: Sara

Sara — Sun, 07 Jan 2007 01:47:58 +0000

I’d like to add my two cents. Women, you are only as attractive to the person you are trying to attract if you think you are. Really and truly. I have found time and time again that if I feel ugly, other people will pass over me, but when I feel energized and happy, others come out of woodwork. I found my ex-husband when I was in a depression…by the “ex” you know how that turned out. In contrast, I was just wanting to have a good time at parties and Mardi Gras when I realized how much I liked my current paramour.
I do believe the money issue is a real one, though. Many men blink when I tell them my profession. My ex was unemployed for a significant amount of time when we moved for my career and it was a major source of problems. His father had been the breadwinner of the family and did very well at it. My ex did not cope well with the fact he was dependant on me for all of his toys. In contrast, the man I am dating now is used to his mother making more money than his father and it does not phase him that I paid more in taxes this year than he grossed.

By: Leah

Leah — Sun, 07 Jan 2007 00:12:06 +0000

I love #3 and might print it on little cards and start giving to friends.
Just cause he’s better than the last guy (not on meth) doesn’t mean he’s as good as you deserve.

By: Guy

Guy — Sat, 06 Jan 2007 20:38:31 +0000

The first 3 are great. But #4 might be one of the most ridiculous things I've read in a long time. First off, if your partner can't stand the idea that you're making more money than him, what are you still doing with him? Dump his ass, per advice #3. Second, if you're going to stay with him, you're going to do it based on a lie - ie "No I don't make more money than you, honestly, here's my paycheck, let's have sex now." Great advice.

By: hugh macleod

hugh macleod — Sat, 06 Jan 2007 20:11:07 +0000

Nia, thanks. Fixed.
Rob, good stuff. Thanks.
I always tended to go for women as smart as me. As I’m fond of saying [and this as applies as much to women as men], “Everyone needs somewhere to put their brain”.

By: Jan / The Faux Press

Jan / The Faux Press — Sat, 06 Jan 2007 19:39:20 +0000

Your cartoon describes what I’ve always thought a fella would consider the perfect woman for marriage…

By: Nia

Nia — Sat, 06 Jan 2007 16:00:03 +0000

Thanks for posting it, Hugh!
The link to my site is broken, can that be fixed?

By: Rob La Gesse

Rob La Gesse — Sat, 06 Jan 2007 10:56:15 +0000

I would add some advise, from someone who was married, hasn’t been for year, has established a career, and has custody of his kids — I’ve seen relationships from a lot of angles!
1) You aren’t perfect, and neither is she/he. Accept it. If you can’t get beyond this rule, join the Priesthood/become a Nun — you aren’t meant to be with someone.
2) Never forget the person you fell in love with, but accept the fact that they are changing just as you are. That’s what life and experience does to us. Deal with it.
3) Chances are, no matter how smart you think you are, you will only be right half the time. Remember that when you argue — you could very well be wrong.
4) Don’t threaten. It minimizes us both. Feel free to act, but don’t threaten. It’s a waste of both of our time.
5) When times are good, make them DAMN good. Don’t hold back, don’t be reserved, don’t pretend, don’t stifle the passion. Those times might very well carry you through rough times ahead.
6) Respect yourself and you’ll find it a lot easier to respect your partner. Same thing goes for love.
Rob