Comments on: ignore everybody http://gapingvoid.com/2004/07/31/ignore-everybody/ "cartoons drawn on the back of business cards" Sun, 22 Nov 2009 00:03:19 -0600 http://wordpress.org/?v=abc hourly 1 By: Management Craft http://gapingvoid.com/2004/07/31/ignore-everybody/comment-page-1/#comment-1278 Management Craft Thu, 08 Dec 2005 17:24:18 +0000 http://gapingvoid.com/?p=817#comment-1278 <strong>What do you want to create? Stop looking at or to others.</strong> I realize I am taking a big risk by mentioning this performer's name as many people find him irritating. But it is a good example, so what the hay. (Make sure you look at the bottom of the post, there What do you want to create? Stop looking at or to others.

I realize I am taking a big risk by mentioning this performer’s name as many people find him irritating. But it is a good example, so what the hay. (Make sure you look at the bottom of the post, there

]]> By: flapjack http://gapingvoid.com/2004/07/31/ignore-everybody/comment-page-1/#comment-1277 flapjack Tue, 14 Sep 2004 13:45:03 +0000 http://gapingvoid.com/?p=817#comment-1277 and im happy saying that and im happy saying that

]]> By: flapjack http://gapingvoid.com/2004/07/31/ignore-everybody/comment-page-1/#comment-1276 flapjack Tue, 14 Sep 2004 13:43:44 +0000 http://gapingvoid.com/?p=817#comment-1276 nah...de wereld is kapot nah…de wereld is kapot

]]> By: madge http://gapingvoid.com/2004/07/31/ignore-everybody/comment-page-1/#comment-1275 madge Mon, 09 Aug 2004 23:03:27 +0000 http://gapingvoid.com/?p=817#comment-1275 this discussion reminds me of that scene from _elizabeth_ when everyone is telling her she needs to get married. and she's like, yes but to whom? everyone wants me to marry someone different, so maybe i should marry one of each to please you all. the more i sing and play my music in front of people, the more advice i get. it's well-meant, coming from people who care about me, but it's all conflicting. b. says i should play acoustic more. r. says i should rock harder. c. says i sing too loud. k. says i sing too loud too (ok, maybe i sing too loud). but the point is, who do i listen to? everyone, i guess. but it can only go in so far, cause like you say in the article, they don't know me like i know me. this discussion reminds me of that scene from _elizabeth_ when everyone is telling her she needs to get married. and she’s like, yes but to whom? everyone wants me to marry someone different, so maybe i should marry one of each to please you all.
the more i sing and play my music in front of people, the more advice i get. it’s well-meant, coming from people who care about me, but it’s all conflicting. b. says i should play acoustic more. r. says i should rock harder. c. says i sing too loud. k. says i sing too loud too (ok, maybe i sing too loud). but the point is, who do i listen to?
everyone, i guess. but it can only go in so far, cause like you say in the article, they don’t know me like i know me.

]]> By: Evelyn Rodriguez http://gapingvoid.com/2004/07/31/ignore-everybody/comment-page-1/#comment-1274 Evelyn Rodriguez Sun, 08 Aug 2004 05:51:30 +0000 http://gapingvoid.com/?p=817#comment-1274 Hmmm, what you said is true. I really really try hard to (yes, sounds paradoxical but it's possible) to accept my friends as they are at same time as seeing them as their highest, best self. I'm not surprised if they rise to their potential. Real friendship, real love isn't confining but freeing. I moved about 18 months ago and one reason was it was a chance to make a fresh start. I was changing so fast that no one that already "knew" me seemed to be able to keep up with their preconceptions of who I was. I'm not so sure that was necessary. The biggest gift you give anyone (including yourself) is to see with fresh eyes every moment. It's a two-way street. My friends see the best in me and coax me back there even if I myself am feeling in a blind funk and vice versa. What you call your 'wee voice' - what I call my authentic voice - sometimes comes through in others. I know it when I hear it regardless of the source. For instance, I was going on and one about one of my tangential latest moneymaking ideas du jour the other day with a true friend. He jolted me back to reality - why had "I" tabled another idea that really spoke to my wee voice but that scared the shit out of me - he gently called me on it. I'm more anxious to drown out my wee voice than anyone else... Hmmm, what you said is true. I really really try hard to (yes, sounds paradoxical but it’s possible) to accept my friends as they are at same time as seeing them as their highest, best self. I’m not surprised if they rise to their potential. Real friendship, real love isn’t confining but freeing. I moved about 18 months ago and one reason was it was a chance to make a fresh start. I was changing so fast that no one that already “knew” me seemed to be able to keep up with their preconceptions of who I was. I’m not so sure that was necessary. The biggest gift you give anyone (including yourself) is to see with fresh eyes every moment. It’s a two-way street. My friends see the best in me and coax me back there even if I myself am feeling in a blind funk and vice versa.
What you call your ‘wee voice’ — what I call my authentic voice — sometimes comes through in others. I know it when I hear it regardless of the source. For instance, I was going on and one about one of my tangential latest moneymaking ideas du jour the other day with a true friend. He jolted me back to reality — why had “I” tabled another idea that really spoke to my wee voice but that scared the shit out of me — he gently called me on it. I’m more anxious to drown out my wee voice than anyone else…

]]> By: erik http://gapingvoid.com/2004/07/31/ignore-everybody/comment-page-1/#comment-1273 erik Fri, 06 Aug 2004 23:46:02 +0000 http://gapingvoid.com/?p=817#comment-1273 um yeah...It was Morrissey that said that. um yeah…It was Morrissey that said that.

]]> By: Richard http://gapingvoid.com/2004/07/31/ignore-everybody/comment-page-1/#comment-1272 Richard Fri, 06 Aug 2004 05:50:58 +0000 http://gapingvoid.com/?p=817#comment-1272 The Smiths said it: We hate it when our friends become successful The Smiths said it:
We hate it when our friends become successful

]]> By: Richard http://gapingvoid.com/2004/07/31/ignore-everybody/comment-page-1/#comment-1271 Richard Fri, 06 Aug 2004 05:50:06 +0000 http://gapingvoid.com/?p=817#comment-1271 The Smiths said it: We hate it when our friends become successful The Smiths said it:
We hate it when our friends become successful

]]> By: wwc http://gapingvoid.com/2004/07/31/ignore-everybody/comment-page-1/#comment-1270 wwc Thu, 05 Aug 2004 03:55:22 +0000 http://gapingvoid.com/?p=817#comment-1270 Morrissey has a song - "We Hate It When Our Friends Become Successful" and it's about what it says. Morrissey has a song — “We Hate It When Our Friends Become Successful” and it’s about what it says.

]]> By: Matty http://gapingvoid.com/2004/07/31/ignore-everybody/comment-page-1/#comment-1269 Matty Thu, 05 Aug 2004 02:26:13 +0000 http://gapingvoid.com/?p=817#comment-1269 Once read a quote that went something to the effect of "There's nothing as sweet as the failure of a friend." Ouch. We do want people to stay in the boxes we've built for them since it's seemingly much easier for us to comprehend and relate to them that way. I guess another way to look at is that keeping up with the Joneses is easy when the Joneses stay put. On a similar note, also once read a quote regarding investment outperformance, i.e., beating the stock market's return. The individual (a finance professor, I believe) said "In order to outperform the market, you must satisfy two criteria: You must be correct, and you must be different from everyone else." I submit that the latter of the two gets to the heart of the issue discussed here, since being different from everyone else almost necessitates that you ignore everyone else to begin with. Matty Once read a quote that went something to the effect of “There’s nothing as sweet as the failure of a friend.” Ouch.
We do want people to stay in the boxes we’ve built for them since it’s seemingly much easier for us to comprehend and relate to them that way. I guess another way to look at is that keeping up with the Joneses is easy when the Joneses stay put.
On a similar note, also once read a quote regarding investment outperformance, i.e., beating the stock market’s return. The individual (a finance professor, I believe) said “In order to outperform the market, you must satisfy two criteria: You must be correct, and you must be different from everyone else.” I submit that the latter of the two gets to the heart of the issue discussed here, since being different from everyone else almost necessitates that you ignore everyone else to begin with.
Matty

]]> By: Greg http://gapingvoid.com/2004/07/31/ignore-everybody/comment-page-1/#comment-1268 Greg Wed, 04 Aug 2004 06:03:43 +0000 http://gapingvoid.com/?p=817#comment-1268 It's nice to be inspired by something that isn't bullshit for a change. Thanks for all this. It’s nice to be inspired by something that isn’t bullshit for a change.
Thanks for all this.

]]> By: ajc http://gapingvoid.com/2004/07/31/ignore-everybody/comment-page-1/#comment-1267 ajc Wed, 04 Aug 2004 05:50:16 +0000 http://gapingvoid.com/?p=817#comment-1267 I agree that this quote is relevant: "To whom much is given, much is expected." While that idea can inspire you to realize your creative potential, it can also crush you under the pressure to produce wonderful things. I feel great pressure to come up with good ideas, and I wind up dismissing too many thoughts because I'm trying to think of a guaranteed great idea. I suppose that that is another hurdle that I alone am responsible for overcoming. I agree that this quote is relevant: “To whom much is given, much is expected.” While that idea can inspire you to realize your creative potential, it can also crush you under the pressure to produce wonderful things. I feel great pressure to come up with good ideas, and I wind up dismissing too many thoughts because I’m trying to think of a guaranteed great idea.
I suppose that that is another hurdle that I alone am responsible for overcoming.

]]> By: David http://gapingvoid.com/2004/07/31/ignore-everybody/comment-page-1/#comment-1266 David Tue, 03 Aug 2004 21:14:29 +0000 http://gapingvoid.com/?p=817#comment-1266 Mason, how about achieving what YOU though was impossible. Your friends might see in you what you do not. Ask them (good friends) what they see in you. You will be surprised. Mason, how about achieving what YOU though was impossible.
Your friends might see in you what you do not. Ask them (good friends) what they see in you. You will be surprised.

]]> By: Mason http://gapingvoid.com/2004/07/31/ignore-everybody/comment-page-1/#comment-1265 Mason Tue, 03 Aug 2004 09:43:05 +0000 http://gapingvoid.com/?p=817#comment-1265 You're dead on with this idea. It's true. People who know you will virtually never see in you the ability to do anything revolutionary. You just can't let it get to you. I actually find this spurring me on even harder. Achieving what your friends and family thought was not possible for "you" to achieve is a feeling with few comparisons. You’re dead on with this idea. It’s true. People who know you will virtually never see in you the ability to do anything revolutionary.
You just can’t let it get to you. I actually find this spurring me on even harder. Achieving what your friends and family thought was not possible for “you” to achieve is a feeling with few comparisons.

]]> By: Brian http://gapingvoid.com/2004/07/31/ignore-everybody/comment-page-1/#comment-1264 Brian Mon, 02 Aug 2004 22:44:06 +0000 http://gapingvoid.com/?p=817#comment-1264 "GOOD IDEAS ALTER THE POWER BALANCE IN RELATIONSHIPS, THAT IS WHY GOOD IDEAS ARE ALWAYS INITIALLY RESISTED. Good ideas come with a heavy burden. Which is why so few people have them. So few people can handle it." Excellent. It makes me think of "To whom much is given, much is expected." I like that connection, as the thought of an obligation to our creativity pleases me. B. “GOOD IDEAS ALTER THE POWER BALANCE IN RELATIONSHIPS, THAT IS WHY GOOD IDEAS ARE ALWAYS INITIALLY RESISTED.
Good ideas come with a heavy burden. Which is why so few people have them. So few people can handle it.”
Excellent.
It makes me think of “To whom much is given, much is expected.” I like that connection, as the thought of an obligation to our creativity pleases me.
B.

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